Why You Don’t Have to Talk About Your Trauma to Heal It
Sophie Boulderstone- May 2
- 2 min read
And Why Talking Often Misses the Point
For people living with PTSD, the idea of healing can feel out of reach. And too often, the advice is the same: talk it through. Therapy, counselling, support groups — all well-meaning, but all rooted in the idea that if you can describe it, you can fix it. That healing comes from putting everything into words, in the right order, and working through the logic of what happened.
But here’s the problem: trauma isn’t stored like that.
Talking therapies often try to help by creating a narrative — a beginning, middle, and end to the traumatic experience. But the brain doesn’t store trauma chronologically. In fact, it doesn’t always store it in words at all.
For many people, the memories are fragmented. Bits and flashes. Sensations. A sense of something being wrong. A sound, a smell, or a feeling in the chest that arrives uninvited, without context. When you try to “talk through” trauma — especially if it’s stored in the body rather than in language — it’s like trying to piece together a puzzle without all the pieces. And often, it leads to frustration, overwhelm, or feeling even more broken.
You’re not broken. You’re trying to use the wrong tool.
The Boulderstone Technique takes a different approach. It doesn’t rely on your ability to recall what happened, or put it into words, or explain it in a way that makes sense to someone else. You don’t need to give it a name. You don’t need to relive it. You don’t even need to remember all of it.
Instead, the practitioner gently holds your head and works with what your body is holding. You only need to bring a small piece of the trauma into your awareness — just enough for it to be noticed and released. Piece by piece, without overwhelm, the trauma is cleared. The practitioner senses when you’re approaching too much and guides you to stay within a safe range, allowing the nervous system to process what it previously couldn’t.
No pressure. No digging. No re-traumatisation.
Because trauma wasn’t stored in words, it doesn’t need words to be released. Because trauma wasn’t stored in order, it doesn’t need to be “understood” in order to be cleared. The Boulderstone Technique works with the body’s intelligence — with the life force — to resolve the problem where it actually lives.
For many people, this is the first time they feel a real shift. Not just managing symptoms. Not just coping. But releasing. Clearing. Healing.
If you’ve tried therapy and felt like something was missing — you’re not wrong. It’s not your fault. You haven’t failed. You’ve just been using words to solve something that words can’t reach.
When you’re ready to try something different, we’re here. You can start with a free 15-minute call — no pressure, no story required.
There is another way. You don’t need the full story to begin healing. You just need the first piece — and the right support to clear it.
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